When I'm asked if I'm having another baby...

I just touched on this topic briefly on my channel but felt the urge to share more here. And just have this here in case anyone needs to hear it now or someday down the road.

Are you going to have another baby? Are you going to have more kids?

Why are we asked this question sooooooo many times. I get it that sometimes it’s just making conversation and I myself have probably asked it but I really try not to anymore. And here is why.

It is so personal.

You never know what it took for that person to get pregnant in the first place. If that came with struggles and maybe hearing that question stirs up a lot of bad memories. Or what if they recently had a miscarriage and haven’t told anyone. You also never know if that person is not 100% sure if they want another baby. Then being put on the spot to say yes or no so black and white is a lot of pressure. It’s like you have to have an answer and can’t go back on what you say. And you feel like you need everyone to know your stance.

Then you hear people say, you’ll know when you are done.

But what if you don’t? Sometimes people are still recovering from their last pregnancy and postpartum experience and aren’t ready to have that conversation. Sometimes people need time to figure out what would be best for their family. And sometimes people are completely happy with the current amount of children they have.

I always think when I’m asked this now (after having 3 kids, 2 of which are twins nonetheless), are these 3 not enough? Is this not enough to show for? I mean personally, I feel like 3 kids is a lot of kids. I feel content, grateful, fulfilled and so dang happy with our family we’ve created and nurtured up until this point.

So if you are in a similar boat that I’m in, just know you aren’t alone. I still get an uneasy feeling when people ask me this and sometimes I don’t exactly know why but I do know that it’s a personal topic that stirs up a lot of things. It can make me feel guilty and unsure and things I don’t think are necessary to feel.

Next time you are wanting to ask someone this, just pause and think twice. And know, that they will tell you if they want to! I’m sure they are thinking about so much in their head but maybe don’t want to share.

Just felt like typing this out, let me know if you feel the same at times.